I have more to say, but I will rely on the immense power of the interweb and do a quick post.
Question: How can one gain confidence in the way they look?
I’d like some advice. It’s a bit more complicated than how I made it look, but it works better that way. I don’t like the way I am when I am down in the dumps thinking that I am absolutely hideous. My severely low self esteem also affects other people in a negative way. I would like to change.
(I’m okay now, but I would hate for that fit of depression to come back. 
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If I knew the answer, I would tell you. It helps of course if you take good care of yourself – regularly cleanse and moisturize your skin, take care with your appearance (both clothes and makeup – it’s not easy being fashionable but it is easy to be presentable) and then if you have that all sorted and are missing only confidence, fake it. If you fake it long enough, it becomes real – it did for me (and I’ve never thought I was beautiful).
You’re not hideous, Melody. You’re beautiful inside and out and that is why we love you. <3 (And I’ve met you, so I’m not making this up ;D)
I agree with Manda! Also surround yourself with people who will be good friends and compliment you and vice versa! The main thing really is to be you and dress and look how you want. Screw everyone else, if you like it you do it and feel happy about it!
Also you are a hotty so there
See, i’m not the only one who thinks you’re beautiful and a hotty.
I think both pieces of advice are very useful. Also, remember all the people who have complimented you and take it on board. I don’t believe I remember anyone saying you were ugly, so what are you going to listen to? The non-existant insults or the plentiful compliments. People wouldn’t just say these things to keep you happy – it’s because it’s true.
Everyone said everything pretty well, but I will say this: out of over six billion people on the face of the planet, and the billions that have come before, and the ones that will come after, you are the only you there is. Not a single other person is who you are, no one else has had quite the same experiences as you, has come away with the same lessons, thinks or speaks quite the way you do.
In a word, you are unique. That nature would conspire to create you, and specifically you, is one hell of a compliment. You could have been born with tons of defects, or to a radically different home, etc etc.
Whenever I’m feeling down, I think about that. I think about the fact that I’m the only me there is and ever will be, and that tends to feel pretty awesome. I suggest you give it a shot. You might be surprised how good it feels.
Failing that, there are always fedoras.